Breaking Free From Toxicity
OOOWEEE guys this one hits home. We have all been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Those toxic relationships will get you every single time. I'm talking in the world of dating, friendship, and sometimes even family. You feel as though you have to continue associating with that person or people just because of that time that you have invested. Sometimes it may be months, years, countless memories and you just aren't ready to let all of that stuff go, but you know deep down that you need to. ITS DRAGGING YOU DOWN. You feel like you are walking on eggshells, or scared that you might say the wrong thing and cause a full on fight because you don't agree with them. Its so ridiculous. But OMG.. letting go feels so good once you do it.
It doesn't have to be this big ordeal, the other person may not even notice it at first. You just start removing yourself from situations. That's when you start feeling the "real you" shining back through again. "The you" that isn't afraid to do or say what makes you happy. You reach your full potential. Its crazy what just a small confidence boost can do for a person, and what's even crazier is that all of this can be a result of removing a tiny bit of negativity from your life. Maybe you are dating someone who just doesn't put forth the same effort as you, but every time that you bring up the fact that you exhaust your efforts but don't feel it reciprocated...you're the problem <NSYNC: "BYE BYE BYE"> Look, I know that sometimes its really tough. Ever sit back and think "Maybe I'm the problem?" Rack your brain, and try to figure out what you could have done or said differently to change things, only to realize that you are not the problem at all? Some people will just always have the mindset that you are in the wrong even when you have done absolutely nothing. You will never understand it because your brain isn't wired to think that way. Another example: sometimes you feel like people don't want you to succeed! I hate to break it to you , but its probably because they don't. It's pretty pitiful but it really eats some people up when they see you doing good for yourself. Especially if you are doing something that you love and you are really good at it too. <Pass them a glass of hater-ade and show them tha' door> The worst part about these toxic relationships, THEY RUB OFF ON YOU. Just take a look at yourself, a good hard look, and you will notice that the negativity has started finding its place in your life. Sad, but true. It's really not a good feeling at all. Especially when it starts to change your character. Never stop being that person that smiles all the time and don't ever be scared to walk away from what's not good for you. Never let someone make you feel disposable. You are a genuine person and deserve so much better than that. Ultimately it's their loss. I seriously love being able to turn my thoughts into words. It is my biggest release. To whoever needed this, life goes on...with or without them.
Much Love,
Amelia B.