Equal Responsibilities?
Should mom and dad both have equal responsibilities in the household? This is a very common/controversial question that is asked and that has also been something that has directly affected me and my husband. Let's bring something into light here! In my opinion, and from my experiences, it is not a good idea to play the comparison game in marriage. The, "I did this, so you should have to do that!", can really stir up emotion for many different reasons. Marriage is not 50/50. It should be 100/100. I'm gonna say it and some people might get fired up about it, but Men and Women were created different for a reason! I'm not going to try to compete with my husband. He wakes up before me, WORKS all day (manual labor), and since I'm now a stay at home mom he has the responsibility on his shoulders of being the sole-provider. Now, that is not discrediting my job as a mother, because it is HARD. I wake up early (after not sleeping the best at night), cook, clean, tend to other duties around the house, and ultimately take care of the little ones! This in itself is most definitely a job. No pay, no time clock, no supervisor, but man it is work 100%. However, I have been a working mother/wife too which means that I can speak from both aspects and give my personal opinion. So... I feel that if mom and dad both work they should both pitch in around the house. Just my thought. We are both financially contributing so we should HELP each other in the home. Now to my SAHMs out there, remember this is my opinion, but I feel like it is my duty as a homemaker to handle household duties. This isn't saying that I'm not gonna have a bad day and not feel like doing the laundry (seriously you should see my clothes baskets right now), or dishes, or mopping, because tending to the kids is a job in itself. I am so blessed to have a husband that does not expect perfection, and even now that I am staying home, he still helps out with things here and there. My way of showing him love and appreciation for all of his hard work is by attempting to keep a tidy home! I don't think that there is any perfect way of handling life's responsibilities, but if there is please let me know! I could use the help. This is just what works for us!
Written straight from my cozy couch.
Always,
Amelia B.